Fidelity

The topic of fidelity intrigues me. When we first hear the word “fidelity” you know that in a marital sense it means faithfulness, loyalty, consistency.. all things you want in a spouse and in your marriage. I loved a definition someone said though that fidelity is “true to what is, not what you want it to be”. That means imperfection! Not that that means to expect unfaithfulness, no loyalty or inconsistency, but that no one is perfect and that equals trials and hardships in marriage. Marriage is hard work, but it’s worth it. It is so sad to me how normalized many types of infidelity are in our society. Infidelity can be fantasy, visual, romantic, sexual, and emotional. Many of these things are very common whether it’s a movie, book, online relationships through hobbies such as video games. Our society embraces these things and normalizes them to the point that people think they are totally okay and aren’t adding to the marital unhappiness. If only we could all see that these things are pulling us apart and completely adding to our trials. Our marriages are worth so much more. They should be cherished and we should cleave to our spouses. I know I want that for my marriage.